Who would you have in your boat?

A wise man once said, ‘You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with’.

That’s an incredibly powerful statement.

Who do you live with?

Who do you work with?

Who are your friends?

Are they your friends?

You can’t easily change the people you work with, at least not quickly. 

You can’t change those you live with, at least not quickly.

You can though change those people who are your friends, should you choose to do so.

The question then, is why would I want to change the people I spend time with?

This could become an incredibly long blog, if I focussed on all things people do that drag you down.  People who only see the negative, who can’t see the bigger picture. People who can’t see passed their own limits and look to impose those upon you. People who resist change with even their last dying breath. Even if it’s for the better.

Are you capable of changing where you are?

Are you meant for more? 

Do you want more?

Only you can answer these questions.

If you think that might be you, then you may wish to surround yourself with people who look to help you achieve your dreams and look for ways to make them happen.

Let me explain. These are personal examples. I am meant for more.

In a recent conversation with a lady I have known for ages, but never sat down to see if we could help each other achieve something great there were a couple of statements she made that are great examples. I was telling her of my driving forces, the things that fire me up and drive me forwards. The desires that are so far out there they won’t happen with just a little bit of hard work. One of them is that I would like to deliver a presentation to a packed O2 Arena about mental health.

Her response, ‘well, we best make that happen then’. Example one.

Second, ‘you do realise that once I commit to something, it gets my full attention, I don’t hang around. I want in’.

That’s positivity.

Another lady I met by the strangest chain of events, had another couple of gems, ‘ I know my way around grant funding, its not that hard, I can help with that’, and then, ‘I know the head of (major construction chain) they need what we have and they have to jump through my hoops to get it. I can make you one of my hoops.’  Awesome.

This is not bragging, although I am chuffed to have these people around, but that’s the point. By putting positivity out there, they have found me and I choose to have them in my boat. I don’t know how long they’ll be in my boat, but they will be there for as long as we can help each other.  Maybe the trade is the drive I bring to these relationships.

The other two people I’d have in my boat. Martin fellow CIC director and of course my wife, Gillian.

That’s five people.

People who lift me up, that I can also take on a magnificent journey and want to come with me.

Who would you have in your boat?

Simon Pollard  Urban Countryman  March 2024

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