Have you ever met someone who knows everything about everything? I’m sure you have, you probably know someone who fits that exact description, usually, they don’t have the capacity to listen and broadcast constantly. Often, they are loud too. ‘There was a fella in the pub the other day… ‘
in fact, I think we’ve all been there on occasions, usually when something has annoyed us. I guess the difference is most of us get back to our ‘normal’ pretty quickly.
The other one is the energy ‘sink’, someone who is just miserable the entire time. Sees problems everywhere, constantly looks for sympathy and gets upset all the time because so many ‘things’ go wrong for them all the time. We’ve probably all had moments like that too.
These are people who manage to make the energy in a room lower, just by entering it.
There was a situation recently where a couple I know lost a house they had put in an offer for. My reaction was, ‘So what have you learnt from that?’ Yeah, I can be a little blunt, however for me, looking for the learning is most important thing. The fella understood that, but the lady got very upset because I didn’t shower them with sympathy. There will be another time.
That brings about the important point though. The same stuff happens to everybody, continually, all the time. It’s how you look at it that matters.
There is a fantastic proverb about a farmer that sums this up perfectly.
“Once upon a time there was a poor farmer whose horse ran away. The farmer went to talk to the local holy man, he said “my horse has run away. This is most terrible.” The holy man simply said, “Maybe.”
The next day the horse came back bringing four wild horses with it, and in the evening the farmer went to the holy man and said, “It’s amazing, my horse came back and brought four more horses!” The holy man again said, “Maybe.”
The following day the farmer’s son tried to break in one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The farmer then told the holy man, “That’s so bad,” and the holy man again responded, “Maybe.”
The next day the conscription officers came around from the local lordship to conscript people into the army to fight in a battle to which most conscripts wouldn’t return. They rejected the farmers son because he had a broken leg. The farmer went to see the holy man and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, the holy man said, “Maybe.””
Can you look at everything in a positive manner? The bad luck all appeared to be good luck in the end, of course there never is actually an end.
Think about it though, how often has someone done something, and you’ve thought the worst. Been late, terrible, but because they were helping someone in need, good.
We have to learn to trust.
We receive a windfall, good, and spend it all so quickly we end up in debt, bad. Most lottery winners are broke again very quickly… Bit like breaking a leg!
Look at the bigger picture, maybe save a little… Then if you break your leg you’ll be ok.
Choose to respond rather than react. Think about it, if you take a second or a day before you do anything, the problem is never as bad. Reacting just gives away control. I’ve blogged about that before.
Often the ‘know it all’ has had bad experiences and has allowed them to dominate every part of their thinking and allowed it to become their reality. That, or those, thoughts become their personality.
Their cup is full and no matter what you do, you can’t change the contents of a full cup.
My dog Scruffy is not like that, he is positive at all times. He’s up for every walk, activity and adventure at all times. If there’s something to chase, he will give chase at all times, even if he has no chance of catching said object. He’s not interested in ‘odds’ at all, he’ll do it anyway. If he thinks he’s detected the presence of ‘rat’ he will keep up the hunt for days at a time. Dogged determination.
No matter how many times he fails, he will try again and for as long as it takes.
My advice, be more DOG!!! It always seems to work out.